Comments on: Newsflash: Self Care is HOT and Martyrdom is NOT! http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/ Avoid power struggles and deal with temper tantrums and become a Guilt Free Mom™. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:16:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Karen http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-2175 Karen Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:14:43 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-2175 Tiffany-- If three minutes a day for yourself is hard, start with one. Make it as easy as possible for yourself to do, especially in the beginning. I find that when I DON'T take some time for myself, I behave in ways that inspire me to feel guilty later on! In other words, by proactively taking a few minutes to myself, I am filling my own cup so I can be of service and help others fill theirs. Does that make sense? Don't give up--and you're not alone! Karen Tiffany–
If three minutes a day for yourself is hard, start with one. Make it as easy as possible for yourself to do, especially in the beginning. I find that when I DON’T take some time for myself, I behave in ways that inspire me to feel guilty later on! In other words, by proactively taking a few minutes to myself, I am filling my own cup so I can be of service and help others fill theirs. Does that make sense?

Don’t give up–and you’re not alone!
Karen

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-2026 Tiffany Fri, 04 Sep 2009 19:49:52 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-2026 I feel guilty all the time. My therapist says I need to make sure I am taking threee minutes a day and I find that hard. I feel guilty all the time. My therapist says I need to make sure I am taking threee minutes a day and I find that hard.

]]> By: bryan http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-1658 bryan Sat, 15 Aug 2009 18:51:21 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-1658 Do you feel guilty because your work schedule limits your availability to your kids? Do you spoil them to try to compensate for time you're not able to spend with your children? Do you take them on expensive vacations or supply them with the newest gadgets to try to distract them from your absence? Do you pay for extracurricular activities that you wouldn't normally because it will give them something to do while you're not there? If this sounds like your situation and you have a question for Dr. Phil - please email you're questions to at Bryan.valderrama@cbsparamount.com along with recent photos of yourself & your family . Thanks for writing Dr. Phil and thank you in advance for your response, we look forward to hearing from you! Do you feel guilty because your work schedule limits your availability to your kids? Do you spoil them to try to compensate for time you’re not able to spend with your children? Do you take them on expensive vacations or supply them with the newest gadgets to try to distract them from your absence? Do you pay for extracurricular activities that you wouldn’t normally because it will give them something to do while you’re not there?
If this sounds like your situation and you have a question for Dr. Phil – please email you’re questions to at Bryan.valderrama@cbsparamount.com along with recent photos of yourself & your family . Thanks for writing Dr. Phil and thank you in advance for your response, we look forward to hearing from you!

]]> By: Karen http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-998 Karen Mon, 08 Jun 2009 22:13:08 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-998 Hey, Beth! Glad you're "here"! I haven't yet read Cheryl Richardson's new book, but am afraid a trip to Barnes and Nolbe (oh, darn!) is in order! Thanks for the heads-up! :) Hope <strong><em>you're</em></strong> taking good care of <strong><em>yourself!</strong></em> Karen :) Hey, Beth!

Glad you’re “here”! I haven’t yet read Cheryl Richardson’s new book, but am afraid a trip to Barnes and Nolbe (oh, darn!) is in order! Thanks for the heads-up! :)

Hope you’re taking good care of yourself!

Karen :)

]]> By: Beth Shepard http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-997 Beth Shepard Mon, 08 Jun 2009 22:03:06 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-997 Great article, Karen! I've just finished Cheryl Richardson's new book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care and am looking forward to trying some of her ideas on myself and my clients! Beth Great article, Karen! I’ve just finished Cheryl Richardson’s new book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care and am looking forward to trying some of her ideas on myself and my clients!

Beth

]]> By: Karen http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-990 Karen Sun, 07 Jun 2009 16:51:53 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-990 Michelle-- I'm so glad this post spoke to you. And if you have two amazing, beautiful, strong-willed little girls, you ESPECIALLY need to recharge. Melt-downs take a lot out of us, whether they're ours or our children's! I see from your site that you are into photography and scrapbooking (as am I!), so it's great to see that you have some activities that "feed your soul." That's so important for moms to have. Know that you're not alone with raising strong-willed children. It's easy to be exhausted, doubt yourself, and sometimes not even enjoy your interactions with the very beings that also bring you such joy. I'm glad you're here---stick around and share your perspective, AND let me know what else you'd like to see covered! Warmly, Karen Michelle–

I’m so glad this post spoke to you. And if you have two amazing, beautiful, strong-willed little girls, you ESPECIALLY need to recharge. Melt-downs take a lot out of us, whether they’re ours or our children’s!

I see from your site that you are into photography and scrapbooking (as am I!), so it’s great to see that you have some activities that “feed your soul.” That’s so important for moms to have.

Know that you’re not alone with raising strong-willed children. It’s easy to be exhausted, doubt yourself, and sometimes not even enjoy your interactions with the very beings that also bring you such joy.

I’m glad you’re here—stick around and share your perspective, AND let me know what else you’d like to see covered!

Warmly,
Karen

]]> By: My Two Seasons http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-986 My Two Seasons Sun, 07 Jun 2009 05:25:06 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-986 Thank you so much for this post! I really needed to hear this! Today I took the day off (the first in quite a while) and went out with my mom and sister for some girl time. I feel so much better mentally tonight. It feels so nice! I was referred to your site by my dad (love him!!). He found your site last night after I called in tears from our latest meltdown. I've been struggling very much with my two little girls, both of them extremely strong willed. I need help! I am so anxious to read through your site, I think you may be on to something here! ;) Thank you!! Michelle Thank you so much for this post! I really needed to hear this! Today I took the day off (the first in quite a while) and went out with my mom and sister for some girl time. I feel so much better mentally tonight. It feels so nice!

I was referred to your site by my dad (love him!!). He found your site last night after I called in tears from our latest meltdown. I’ve been struggling very much with my two little girls, both of them extremely strong willed. I need help! I am so anxious to read through your site, I think you may be on to something here! ;)

Thank you!!
Michelle

]]> By: Karen http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-966 Karen Wed, 03 Jun 2009 16:56:13 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-966 Amen, sister! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the matter AND for joining those of us moms who are tired and are saying, "I WILL recharge! NOW" Karen :) Amen, sister! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the matter AND for joining those of us moms who are tired and are saying, “I WILL recharge! NOW”

Karen :)

]]> By: Suzanne http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/newsflash-self-care-is-hot-and-martyrdom-is-not/comment-page-1/#comment-965 Suzanne Wed, 03 Jun 2009 09:04:31 +0000 http://www.theguiltfreemom.com/?p=214#comment-965 I think the most important thing I've done for myself in the last few years is to actually go to bed when I realize I'm tired and pushing myself, instead of making another pot of coffee because there's so much left to be done. I can work circles around my tired self with just a few hours sleep, and I've finally realized the world will not stop spinning if I get some sleep. Of course, the other thing that's really helped is learning the effective and judicious use of the word, "No." It feels weird in the beginning, but give it a try! Nothing beats overwhelm like not allowing it in the first place! I think the most important thing I’ve done for myself in the last few years is to actually go to bed when I realize I’m tired and pushing myself, instead of making another pot of coffee because there’s so much left to be done. I can work circles around my tired self with just a few hours sleep, and I’ve finally realized the world will not stop spinning if I get some sleep.

Of course, the other thing that’s really helped is learning the effective and judicious use of the word, “No.” It feels weird in the beginning, but give it a try! Nothing beats overwhelm like not allowing it in the first place!

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