Comments on: Those Other Moms Are Lying

By: Lisa Merlo-Booth

Lisa Merlo-Booth — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 18:38:43 +0000

What a great post! I couldn’t agree more. I often joke about creating a therapy jar for my kids just in case they need it some day due to those “less than ideal” parenting moments. I also know there are times when I’ve had pretty good parenting moments. My hope is they balance out…with the scale tipping towards the positive moments:-).

I often advise parents to watch the world for a week with non-judgemental eyes. This would mean everytime you notice a parent struggling with a screaming, defiant or overly exhausted child in meltdown mode, you say to yourself “Aah, I’ve been there.” As we watch others with understanding rather than judgement, we can then watch (and offer) ourselves with the same understanding.
Thanks for such a great post.

By: Wendy @ Kidlutons.com

Wendy @ Kidlutons.com — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 05:56:02 +0000

Karen,

I like your style! Not sure how I found you, but I’m glad I did! You offer real advice that works in real time! No wonder you are such a success at what you do! Keep up the great work!

I think one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves as parents, is to lighten up! Not one of us is perfect…not even the experts…and I love how you put that front and center! Once we do that, we need to pull in those strategies that help us become the best we can be at any given time. I use the approach you do in my practice, AND at home…where I get to see the proof that it REALLY does work!

Great time perusing your site! I’ll be back to visit! You rock (as my kids would say:)!

Wendy Young, LMSW, BCD

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 03:26:37 +0000

Hi, Angie–

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’ve felt plenty embarrassed by my kids’ behavior, AND I’ve done my share of judging, too. I try to catch myself with both so I don’t stay stuck in either. I just think mothering is too important and too difficult as it is—why add to it with judging one another?

Again, glad you shared!
Warmly,
Karen

By: Angie

Angie — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 01:10:10 +0000

Yep, when someone is critical I just think “you spot it, you got it!”
that being said I didn’t take my daughter to see her grandma for a week because i had left hot tea out, she grabbed it, and she burned her arm- yes- I felt like a bad mom.
For many reasons I have felt guilt. Most of the second guessing has came from pure exhaustion because I did not think it was OK to ask for help (I also was afraid I may be judged).
If we were all supportive and compassionate toward other moms (as well as celebrate our uniqueness!) we would all have a much easier time.
Time to trust ourselves and our own decisions! Also time to realize that it is OK to make mistakes and turn those into learning experiences!

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