Comments on: What To Do When People Don’t Think You’re Awesome

By: Raelee

Raelee — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:08:46 +0000

This couldn’t be better timing for me, Karen & Jo Della. I’ve been having so much anxiety about a client who paid for services, received one coaching call, and will not schedule further nor will she reply to any of my email messages or phone calls. It’s really perplexing for me and makes me feel awful. She lives locally so it isn’t something I’ve been able to let go of because I know we will be seeing one another. Yesterday I actually saw her in her car and I waved and she enthusiastically and warmly waved back! You’re absolutely right! This has nothing to do with me!! Hallelujah!

By: Jo Della Penna

Jo Della Penna — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:08:13 +0000

Karen,

Fabulous!

Yes, to live a guilt-free life requires us to separate ourselves from the opinions and expectations of others.

Here’s to “Guilt-FREE” living! ;-)

♥Jo

By: Jo Della Penna

Jo Della Penna — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:04:02 +0000

Suzanne,

Absolutely, it is not the circumstance itself that makes us feel bad or good, it is what we THINK about it that makes it so.

That is what I love about Mr. Ruiz’s book. He talks about if someone was to criticize us and it upset us, then there is a part of our thinking that believes that it could be true. Quite an eye opener if you really think about it. Right?

Learning that the criticism (or praise) is not about YOU and about how the other person thinks and feels, allows us to honor the other person’s opinion respectively.

Great comment, Suzanne!

♥Jo

By: Jo Della Penna

Jo Della Penna — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:49:10 +0000

Julie:

From one sensitive person to another, I have learned that my sensitivity makes me gifted and excellent at what I do. While we feel things deeply, it is a blessing to the people we serve.

The book is awesome to get perspective around how to relate to others (especially difficult ones) without getting beat up in the process.

Thank you for sharing!

♥Jo

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 06:11:47 +0000

Hey, Suzanne–

So is it your understanding of the Law of Polarity that helps you not to take criticism personally? I know so many people who struggle with this–they just can’t seem to get past feeling the shame and blame. Just curious as to what enables a very feeling, intuitive person like you (and in that sense you are very much like the women I coach) to shake loose from criticism…Any other thoughts?

Glad you’re hangin’ at the GFM!
Karen

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:44:36 +0000

Ahhh yes, the Law of Polarity. Very much a fact in this world of duality. However, I remind myself that nothing is either good or bad – it’s what we think about it that makes it so. That’s where “one man’s trash, another man’s treasure” comes from.

So, while I am the perfect fit for some folks looking to build or improve their web presence, I am also the REALLY WRONG choice for others. I try to keep this in mind when dealing with criticism: it’s all relative.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 00:50:02 +0000

Hey, Julie—

I’m with you on being tired of hearing that you take things “too personally.” Gets old, doesn’t it? Sometimes it means that the person saying it is uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to say or do. I don’t think it’s unusual for people who are peacekeepers to be very sensitive; after all, they pick up on others’ emotions and often try to smooth things over. Being sensitive is a great trait; it doesn’t make life any easier to be sensitive, that’s for sure. But the world needs us sensitive people! We just need to learn how to take care of ourselves and use our sensitivity in healthy ways!

By the way, SO glad you stopped by the blog!
-Karen

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 00:29:56 +0000

I’m “really” tired of people telling me “I take things to personally”. I have always been a sensitive person and it would be nice to be a little thicker skinned. It’s very hard for me to take criticism because it feels like a personal attack. I’m the peace keeper. The advice I read about makes since so I’ll read the book.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 22:21:31 +0000

Karen–

Isn’t it amazing how many areas of our lives we can practice conscious leadership? From parenting, to running a business, to just being human! So glad you stopped by the blog and shared your voice!

Karen

By: Karen McMillan, ACC

Karen McMillan, ACC — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 22:02:54 +0000

Oh yes. It’s not about us. Taking this advice in all situations can change our lives. Miguel Ruiz reminds us that it’s not about us, and the Tao reminds us that the bad guy gives us a chance to (balance) the good guy, and practice our conscious leadership (OK, not a direct quote, but you get the idea. :-) ) It’s a teachable moment. Thanks for the reminder to live that guilt-free life.